Friday, June 27, 2014

An Unexpected Proposal

As I mentioned in a previous post, I have been taking an intense writing training over the last 3 weeks.  It has been a wonderful opportunity to do what I love most--write!  I will be posting some of the pieces I wrote during the past month, some are better than others, but they all deserve to be lifted out of my paper notebook and recorded here on my blog for safekeeping. 


First up, our love story.  Almost, 6 years ago, Dale and I headed to Alaska with the intention of canoeing down the Yukon River with our friend, Jarred.  Due to heavy rains, we never got our canoes in the water, instead a different adventure began.....



An Unexpected Proposal


“He’s never going to marry you. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!” my lovable but opinionated roommate warned me upon hearing I was moving in with my new boyfriend.

Her warnings didn’t stop me. I moved in with Dale and thus began our domestic heaven.  Our first day living together, we sat on the couch for hours holding hands, absorbing the intoxicating rays of light that shone through our downtown apartment.  Dale and I had only been together 3 months but it had felt like an eternity.

I met Dale at a company party a few months back and the moment I laid eyes on him, my heart beat faster and my stomach churned with nerves.  Since that night, we had become inseparable.  He was different than the others.  Dale asked me thought-provoking questions and engaged me in deep conversations about philosophy, psychology, and life.  We watched movies and talked into the early morning when the sun barely peaked over the Cascade Mountains and the birds chirped harmoniously outside the window.  He cooked incredible meals that aroused my taste buds in a new melody of flavor—herb-roasted chicken, pasta carbonara, and lemony artichoke risotto to name a few.  Everyday, Dale walked me the three miles uphill to my college campus to make sure I arrived safely to class.  And everyday we walked in perfect rhythm holding hands as though they were glued together.  I was in love.  It wasn't the innocent, 16-year old, lusty love—it was the "I see my future with this guy" kind of love.  Before I knew it, I started daydreaming of our wedding and naming our future children.

My family came from all parts of the country for my college graduation.  They all had varying opinions of Dale.  My dad loved him and confessed to me that they must have had a past life together—an opinion that confirmed my conviction that Dale and I were meant to be.  My mom liked that Dale stroked my long, dark hair and opened doors for everyone wherever we went.  My grandparents, while they disliked his upscale restaurant career, appreciated his respectfulness and ability to talk to anyone.

I had wondered if Dale would ask them permission to marry me.  We had talked about marriage and kids already and it seemed like the perfect opportunity.  Alas, it didn't happen at graduation.  It didn't happen at our 6-month anniversary and it most certainly did not happen on our spontaneous weekend trip to the beach.  I was worried that maybe Dale didn't have the same feelings for me anymore.  My mind chased away the cacophony of ugly thoughts—after all it had only been 6 months or perhaps my former roommate was right.

The sun, now uncomfortably hot made my throat parched and tender. For the first time in the 4 hours since I moved in, I tore myself from Dale's embrace and headed for the kitchen.

"Do you want to go to Alaska?" Dale called while I soothed my throat and nerves with cool water.

Alaska.  An untamed and rugged place I'd always dreamed of going—the place Dale called home.  

A few weeks later we found ourselves 30,000 feet high in clear blue skies headed north.  When we landed I was left breathless by the cool summer air and a sun that hung in the sky—even at midnight.  Alaska was beautiful.  Every turn on the road presented itself with exquisite jagged mountain tops, emerald green forests, and majestic bald eagles perched in every tree.  We drove to the Top of the World Highway, set foot in the Yukon River, and even ran out of gas just miles from the county's only gas station—it was surreal. Seeing Dale in his natural state, his birthplace, made me fall even more deeply in love with him.  Dale was rugged, surprising, and inspiring—just like the state that had raised him.

As we drove around the Kenai Peninsula where beluga whales bobbed in the water singing their underwater symphony, I wondered again, impatiently, when Dale might propose.

"You know, I'm not going to propose in Alaska,” Dale stated as though he were a mind reader. He lovingly touched my knee and continued, “it is just too predictable".

My heart deflated a little.  He was right though.  Just like so many love-drunk women, I was obsessed, borderline crazy, and needed to let it go.

We continued our journey around Alaska.  I met his unconventional family. What they lacked in missing teeth and hair, they made up for in unconditional love for Dale and me. We went whale watching, ate bear sausage, and saw salmon spawning in a creek.  Dale calmed my fear of any possible bear attacks by loudly chanting “Down by the Bay” whenever we hiked.

Our last week in Alaska, we climbed Resurrection Glacier.  The clear blue caverns of ice that surrounded the glacier almost whispered your name when the wind blew.  By now it was almost the end of summer and the sun no longer hung in the sky.  We set up camp alongside a babbling creek, tucked in between a forest of pine trees and a deserted highway.  The stars twinkled rhythmically, the hot fire crackled, and our only company was each other and the occasional moose that passed by.  It was absolutely perfect.  Dale and I held hands and gazed into the embers of our campfire, recounting moments from our trip.  It had been a blissful and adventurous journey—one that I was not ready to end. Little did I know, my real journey was about to begin because just as our last Alaskan campfire began to die out, Dale leaned in and asked "Will you marry me?"

6 years ago, at our proposal site near Resurrection Glacier

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Summer....

Summer is here and temperatures are already heating up in Houston.  Yesterday was 97 but having been deprived of sun and high temperatures for the last decade, I prefer to lay in the warmth like a lizard absorbing all the rays I can get.  It is glorious. 

Sadly, my summer seems like it is gone before it even started because of all the summer trainings I will be attending.  147 hours of professional development, to be exact.  During June, I am attending the Abydos Writing Institute, which is so far amazing.  I will be off during July and then back to trainings beginning July 31 which will last until the first day of school in August.  Ouch.

In the meantime, we are having a blast.  For two days, I slept as much as possible, only taking breaks to read (read!!!), drink coffee, and play outside.  We went to the zoo, played in the splash park, tried a new restaurant and finally made our house a home (yes, seriously, we lacked furniture and still had boxes that needed to be unpacked from our move).  We have cooked delicious meals, watched movies, and gone swimming.  The boys are very happy sleeping in and playing at home without the morning shuffle out the door. While I will have trainings most of the summer, I do have some goals which have already been started and accomplished!

Summer Goals
1.  Buy a couch (DONE---and I got it for FREE)
2. Unpack boxes 
3. Set up the den/piano room 
4.  Read at least 1 book per week (off to a good start, I have read 2 so far)
5. Start early morning running again 
6. Go to Discovery Green's Flea by Night
7. Date night at Red Lion Pub and a movie
8. Take a trip to Austin and eat at Love Balls
9. Go camping! Either at Inks Lake State Park or some other Hill Country park.
10.  Go to Corpus Christi and drive on the beach
11. Sleep as much as possible
12. Organize and level my classroom books
13. Make workstations for next year
14. Plan the 1st nine weeks of school (probably won't happen....but I want to try!)
15. Go to the Museum District and see the Menil Collection, Weather Museum, and MFAH.
16. Grow tomatoes (planted and growing!!!)
17. Go back to 100% paleo diet (we really slacked this year)
18. Write more.  Blog more. (obviously, getting started on that one)
19.  Enroll the kids in swim lessons
20.  Drive to the Louisiana border (just to say I have been!)
21. Buy a second car (it has been rough only have one car to make our daily commute!)

Here are some photos of our summer break so far! I can't believe how big the boys are getting!
 Riding the Herman Park Train

 Early morning run!

 Cafe Pita--they have a playground at the restaurant!

 Playing Battleship outside

 Slip n' Slide!

 Our dining room

 Living room (these chairs are in the den now because we got a couch!)

 Our bedroom

 Our  bedroom (the picture is one I had made for Dale last Christmas that has a picture of us at Cannon Beach, OR and says, "The greatest joy in life is finding someone who knows all your flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses, and still thinks your amazing."

 The den

 The den, our piano (story about that coming soon)

 Kannon at his graduation

 At Petrol Station (a favorite restaurant)

 Tomato Plants


 On our way to the Astros Game

 Astros Game

 Mother's day

Survivors


I survived my first year as a second grade teacher.  I survived being a working mom with 2 boys despite being a 2nd grade teacher.  And, my husband survived being married to me, during this year when I was up late studying, writing lesson plans, and doing anything and everything related to my classroom--it was a rough year that required a lot of balancing, patience, and wine...lots of wine.

Here I am 3 weeks into my summer and the work anxiety is starting to fade.  Even though I was confident in the classroom despite all my behavior problems, at-risk students, and limited resources, I still had anxiety.  Would I be observed today?  Would my projector break? Would we have pencils? Would I get a new student? Would I lose a student?  How many referrals would I write today? Did Jon Doe take their behavior medication? Did Jane Doe get breakfast today? How did my students do on their standardized test? The anxiety haunted me every single day-- in my sleep and my way to school--until the morning bell rang when I was greeted by 19 friendly faces eager and ready to learn.  Only then, did the anxiety go away, when I remembered what I was there to do--teach. 

But I did so much more than just teach.  I was a counselor, a nurse, a mediator, a storyteller, a writer, a coach, and so much more.  I taught my students more than they were required to learn, more than was in our curriculum, but I still feel like I didn't teach them enough.  On the last day of school, I cried like a baby not wanting to let my class go.  Most of my students improved over 2 years of reading in one year of school.  They made me proud when they aced their end of the year math exams, using strategies I had taught them.  The last week of school, we wrote poems, conducted student interviews, met real people with real success stories, and created a memory book.  My students made me proud.

Yes, I taught them, but they were the ones who wanted to learn.  They were the ones who asked questions and engaged in higher level thinking.  On the last day, I asked my students where they would be in ten years.  All of them said "in college" studying to be a doctor, a lawyer, a veterinarian, a zoologist, and more.  Several even said they would be a teacher, "just like Mrs. P".  I asked them what they would need to do to achieve their goals and without hesitation they said "determination, hard work, confidence, and self-control" (all terms we had learned from a book, Inch & Miles: Journey to Success).

It wasn't all roses this year.  I had students with anger management issues throw desks, hit each other, and curse at me.  I had students who ended up homeless, sleeping in their car, coming to school in the same outfit they had worn for weeks. And, I had students who were taken away from their parents by CPS.  Despite these challenges, all these students survived.  They survived the school year, showed growth and continue to show a desire for knowledge and success.

Saying good bye was the hardest thing for me to do.  Many of my students will not be coming back next year.  They are moving on to new schools, new cities, and new states.  I will have no way of knowing how well they did next year or in the next ten years. For now, all I can do is hope they remember our class and prepare for next year's class.